9 Things Your Bridesmaids Want You to Know

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acara pernikahanmu, kamu membutuhkan kehadiran dan pertolongan
mereka lebih dari apapun. Ini ada beberapa hal yang kamu perlu tahu
untuk membuat mereka tetap happy dan enjoy.

1. They Want You to Tell Them Your Expectations

What do you expect from your bridesmaids? Do you want them
to just show up to support you on your wedding day, or do you want
them to be there with you throughout all the decision making
and to-dos, like addressing wedding invitations and filling up
welcome bags for out-of-town guests? Either way, let your bridesmaids
know what you expect of them, so you don’t end up frustrated with
a friend who doesn’t understand (or didn’t know) what you wanted
them to do in the first place.

2. They Want You to Tell Your Other Friends About Them

The only thing worse than a coworker who thinks she’s invited to your
wedding is a friend who assumes she’s going to be a bridesmaid. Let it be
known whom you’ve chosen so neither you nor your bridesmaids feel
awkward about it around non-bridal-party members. Don’t be afraid of
hurting someone’s feelings — as cliche as it sounds, any true friend will
understand whatever decision you make.

3. They Want You to Have Your Dream Wedding

Try not to make hasty assumptions. Don’t write off some friends simply
because you think they don’t have enough money to afford that Vera Wang
bridesmaid dress you have your eye on. While it’s important to recognize
your friends’ financial situations, they want you to be happy on your
wedding day (just like you would of them), so don’t be shy about opening
up the conversation and letting them know what you’re envisioning (and
then you can come to a money compromise that works for both of you!).

4. They Want You to Respect Their Responsibilities

As you’re allocating responsibilities, be mindful of their personal
lives — your friend who’s trying to make partner at her law firm
or who’s dealing with a new baby may not have time to assist you
with every little task. At the same time, you don’t want to cause
tension within the wedding party if some girls feel the others aren’t
pulling their weight. Try to keep a good balance, and remind
yourself that there are others who can help out: You’ve got your
parents, other family members and your fiance. Plenty of people
are willing to pitch in, so take advantage of it as you need to.

5. They Want You to Dress Them Well

If you know one of them would be uncomfortable in the dress you
envision, come up with a compromise. Not sure one dress will work
for all your girls? Make some guidelines (say, a color and length you like)
and then let them choose the exact style. Trust us—even with different
necklines or sashes, they’ll still look fantastic. Remember: You want each
and every one of your bridesmaids to feel beautiful (and comfortable!),
so your efforts in the dress department are well worth it.

6. They Want You to Put Yourself in Their Shoes

Yes, you want your bridal party to be your go-to pals when you need
something (even if it’s just to vent). But that doesn’t mean you should
be cracking the whip nonstop. Whenever you’re asking one of your friends
if she’d be willing to help you with something — whether it’s attending your
gown fitting or tying 100 miniature bows around 100 favor boxes — stop
and think: Would I do this for her? It’s a good reality check to keep your
requests reasonable.

7. They Want You to Keep Them in the Black

They have to shell out for quite a bit over the course of the wedding: dresses,
hair, the shower, wedding gifts, the bachelorette party and travel expenses,
to name a few. These add up and can put a pinch on even the most financially
flush of bridesmaids. Take this into consideration and offer to help when you can.
For example, let them know they shouldn’t feel pressured to give you an extravagant
shower present, or if you’re having more than one shower, tell them you don’t
expect multiple gifts.

8. They Want You to Make Their To-Do List Manageable

Try to come up with a game plan beforehand of who needs to do what
on the wedding day. Then make a second mental list of who else can
and has offered to help — aunts, cousins, ushers and so on. When little
things do come up (which they will), you’ll be able to rely on that latter
team to help you take care of details as needed rather than overextending
your bridesmaids.

9. They Want You to Stay Their Friend

Obvious, right? Sometimes when you’re caught up in wedding related
drama, it can be hard to remember there’s a world outside your wedding.
When you meet up with one of your bridesmaids, make a point to talk
about things not related to the wedding. Whether it’s the project
she’s working on at work or the blind date she went on last weekend,
she’ll appreciate the opportunity to tell you all about it, the same way
she always has. Similarly, when you’re really upset — whether about
the wedding or anything else — you’ll know she’ll be there for you, right
now and long after you’ve said, “I do.”

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